{"id":196811,"date":"2026-02-04T13:08:30","date_gmt":"2026-02-04T02:08:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/?p=196811"},"modified":"2026-02-04T13:17:17","modified_gmt":"2026-02-04T02:17:17","slug":"how-to-slide-into-dms","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/style\/how-to-slide-into-dms","title":{"rendered":"How To (Successfully) Slide Into A Girl&#8217;s DM&#8217;s"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Instagram is a world of opportunity that largely goes untapped.<\/p><p>It\u2019s also a romantic place, full of bold Mayfair filters and tantalising photos of insta-models out of you league. But what if that weren\u2019t the case?<\/p><p>What if you could not only summon the courage to humiliate yourself, but actually succeed at talking to, flirting with, and asking out one of these divine merchants of good times and detox tea?<\/p><p>Asking on behalf of a friend of a friend, we contacted Simone Holtznagel, an international model with over 105k followers, to find out: (how) can it really be done?<\/p>                <div class=\"row row-center collapse\">\n                    <div class=\"column\">\n                        <div class=\"dmg-ad\"><div id=\"incontent-1117592056\" class=\"ad-container\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var load_540480110 = function () {googletag.cmd.push(function () {var slot_540480110 = googletag.defineSlot(\"\/1017963\/DMarge\/incontent\",[[300,250],[320,100],[320,180],[336,280],[640,360]],\"incontent-1117592056\").addService(googletag.pubads()).setTargeting('refresh', 'true');if (gamData && gamData.sizeMap && gamData.sizeMap.hasOwnProperty('incontent')) {slot_540480110.defineSizeMapping(gamData.sizeMap['incontent']);}googletag.display(\"incontent-1117592056\");});};adsQueue.push(load_540480110);<\/script><\/div><\/div>                    <\/div>\n                <\/div>\n                    <div class=\"content-subscribe\">\n        <div class=\"subscribe-box\">\n            <p class=\"subscribe-title\">Curated news for men, <br\/>delivered to your inbox.<\/p>\n            <form class=\"subscribe-form\" method=\"POST\">\n                <div class=\"subscribe-input\">\n                    <label class=\"screen-reader-text\" for=\"subscribe-email\">Email:<\/label>\n                    <input type=\"email\" name=\"email\" id=\"subscribe-email\" placeholder=\"Enter your email\" required class=\"form-control\" autocomplete=\"on\" \/>\n                    <button type=\"submit\" class=\"button button-primary subscribe-button\">Sign Up<\/button>\n                    <input type=\"hidden\" name=\"source\" value=\"article\" \/>\n                    <input type=\"hidden\" id=\"_wpnonce\" name=\"_wpnonce\" value=\"e2df992756\" \/><input type=\"hidden\" name=\"_wp_http_referer\" value=\"\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/196811\" \/>                <\/div>\n                <div class=\"form-result\"><\/div>\n            <\/form>\n            <p class=\"subscribe-copy\">Join the DMARGE newsletter \u2014 Be the first to receive the latest news and exclusive stories on style, travel, luxury, cars, and watches. Straight to your inbox.<\/p>\n        <\/div>\n    <\/div>\n    <blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><div style=\"padding: 8px;\"><div style=\"background: #F8F8F8; line-height: 0; margin-top: 40px; padding: 32.195676905574516% 0; text-align: center; width: 100%;\"><div style=\"background: url(data:image\/png; base64,ivborw0kggoaaaansuheugaaacwaaaascamaaaapwqozaaaabgdbtueaalgpc\/xhbqaaaafzukdcak7ohokaaaamuexurczmzpf399fx1+bm5mzy9amaaadisurbvdjlvzxbesmgces5\/p8\/t9furvcrmu73jwlzosgsiizurcjo\/ad+eqjjb4hv8bft+idpqocx1wjosbfhh2xssxeiyn3uli\/6mnree07uiwjev8ueowds88ly97kqytlijkktuybbruayvh5wohixmpi5we58ek028czwyuqdlkpg1bkb4nnm+veanfhqn1k4+gpt6ugqcvu2h2ovuif\/gwufyy8owepdyzsa3avcqpvovvzzz2vtnn2wu8qzvjddeto90gsy9mvlqtgysy231mxry6i2ggqjrty0l8fxcxfcbbhwrsyyaaaaaelftksuqmcc); display: block; height: 44px; margin: 0 auto -44px; position: relative; top: -22px; width: 44px;\">\u00a0<\/div><\/div><p style=\"margin: 8px 0 0 0; padding: 0 4px;\"><a style=\"color: #000; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px; text-decoration: none; word-wrap: break-word;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/BiQh5QMDoNU\/\" target=\"_blank\"  rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Me, sittin\u2019 here waiting for the sun to go down so I can be a total granny and get into bed already.. Except I literally have my pajama pants tucked into my socks because I\u2019m so cold.<\/a><\/p><p style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px; margin-bottom: 0; margin-top: 8px; overflow: hidden; padding: 8px 0 7px; text-align: center; text-overflow: ellipsis; white-space: nowrap;\">A post shared by <a style=\"color: #c9c8cd; font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; font-style: normal; font-weight: normal; line-height: 17px;\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/moannn\/\" target=\"_blank\"  rel=\"noreferrer noopener\"> Simone Holtznagel<\/a> (@moannn) on <time style=\"font-family: Arial,sans-serif; font-size: 14px; line-height: 17px;\" datetime=\"2018-05-02T02:27:40+00:00\">May 1, 2018 at 7:27pm PDT<\/time><\/p><\/div><\/blockquote><p>We put her the most common Instagram equation: you\u2019re a nobody with a puny follower count (100 friends, your mum, and a fake account you created for your dog), and you are currently following the girl of your dreams; but she doesn\u2019t follow you.<\/p><p>Your short term goal is to get on her radar and get a \u201clike\u201d. The long term goal is to get a \u201cfollow back\u201d (between single studs there\u2019s no such thing as a platonic follow). The dream goal, however, is to show her that you are worth her attention in real-life.<\/p>                <div class=\"row row-center collapse\">\n                    <div class=\"column\">\n                        <div class=\"dmg-ad\"><div id=\"incontent-1282298475\" class=\"ad-container\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var load_837539454 = function () {googletag.cmd.push(function () {var slot_837539454 = googletag.defineSlot(\"\/1017963\/DMarge\/incontent\",[[250,250],[300,100],[300,250],[320,100],[336,280]],\"incontent-1282298475\").addService(googletag.pubads()).setTargeting('refresh', 'true');if (gamData && gamData.sizeMap && gamData.sizeMap.hasOwnProperty('incontent')) {slot_837539454.defineSizeMapping(gamData.sizeMap['incontent']);}googletag.display(\"incontent-1282298475\");});};adsQueue.push(load_837539454);<\/script><\/div><\/div>                    <\/div>\n                <\/div>\n                <p>Funnily enough, the answer isn\u2019t dick pics. In fact this was the first \u2018strategy\u2019 Simone shot down.<\/p><blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201cDick pics\u2014don\u2019t work. Let\u2019s get that clear. No way, never.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote><p>Also, she says, \u201cThat\u2019s not the type of guy you want to be with anyway if he\u2019s sending pictures of his junk to random girls. I personally try to find their mothers on Facebook and forward it on to them.\u201d<\/p>                <div class=\"row row-center collapse\">\n                    <div class=\"column\">\n                        <div class=\"dmg-ad\"><div id=\"incontent-350180428\" class=\"ad-container\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var load_177146089 = function () {googletag.cmd.push(function () {var slot_177146089 = googletag.defineSlot(\"\/1017963\/DMarge\/incontent\",[[250,250],[300,100],[300,250],[320,100],[336,280]],\"incontent-350180428\").addService(googletag.pubads()).setTargeting('refresh', 'true');if (gamData && gamData.sizeMap && gamData.sizeMap.hasOwnProperty('incontent')) {slot_177146089.defineSizeMapping(gamData.sizeMap['incontent']);}googletag.display(\"incontent-350180428\");});};adsQueue.push(load_177146089);<\/script><\/div><\/div>                    <\/div>\n                <\/div>\n                <p>According to Simone, if you want your approach to work: don\u2019t just go straight sliding in there. \u201cDo a couple of week\u2019s work, follow them, like pictures, respond to Instagram stories (NOTHING CREEPY).\u201d<\/p><p>Los Angeles based model <a target=\"_blank\" href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/ashleytervort\/\" rel=\"noreferrer noopener\">Ashley Ann<\/a> concurred. Ashley told DMARGE: \u201cA sense of humour can be one of the most attractive characteristics of a guy, so comments\/messages that can bring out a laugh in me always catch my attention in a positive way.\u201d<\/p><blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201cOn the other hand, try not to be bland, [and never be] degrading or too intrusive.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>                <div class=\"row row-center collapse\">\n                    <div class=\"column\">\n                        <div class=\"dmg-ad\"><div id=\"incontent-738495072\" class=\"ad-container\"><script type=\"text\/javascript\">var load_1780522179 = function () {googletag.cmd.push(function () {var slot_1780522179 = googletag.defineSlot(\"\/1017963\/DMarge\/incontent\",[[250,250],[300,100],[300,250],[320,100],[336,280]],\"incontent-738495072\").addService(googletag.pubads()).setTargeting('refresh', 'true');if (gamData && gamData.sizeMap && gamData.sizeMap.hasOwnProperty('incontent')) {slot_1780522179.defineSizeMapping(gamData.sizeMap['incontent']);}googletag.display(\"incontent-738495072\");});};adsQueue.push(load_1780522179);<\/script><\/div><\/div>                    <\/div>\n                <\/div>\n                <p>As for your tone, \u201cThe wittier the better,\u201d Simone adds. Then all you can do is wait, trusting she likes what she sees. \u201cUsually after a while of seeing your name pop up everywhere she will take a look (at your profile)\u201d. So make sure your clever prose isn\u2019t ruined by forgetting to get rid of the bio your drunk friend wrote for you.<\/p><p>And, assuming you get all of that right, your personality (and face) is the limit. So although it\u2019s impossible to put a definitive number on your chances, it could happen.<\/p><blockquote class=\"wp-block-quote is-layout-flow wp-block-quote-is-layout-flow\"><p>\u201cI\u2019ve had this happen before, we went out once or twice and that was really it but I\u2019d say that we are friends now.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote><p>So, we\u2019d better report back to that friend of a friend. In the meantime: get sliding!<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Hint: the answer isn&#8217;t dick pics&#8230;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":101039,"featured_media":78269,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"_stopmodifiedupdate":false,"_modified_date":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[397],"tags":[],"coauthors":[146230],"class_list":{"0":"post-196811","1":"post","2":"type-post","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"category-style"},"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/196811","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/101039"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=196811"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/196811\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":536824,"href":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/196811\/revisions\/536824"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/78269"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=196811"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=196811"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=196811"},{"taxonomy":"author","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/dmarge.com\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/coauthors?post=196811"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}